During our dating years, we often discussed how many children we wanted, how we loved the idea of helping children in need and one day adopting after we had our own biological children. It was something that fit our serving and giving personalities – one day. But we laid those dreams to rest and put our one year plan in motion. We were a newly married couple and fertility (or lack thereof) wasn’t even a matter of discussion. We’re Hispanics – we make van loads of babies, why would we ever doubt we could have children? We were actually preventing them because we wanted to enjoy a year of being baby free. We look back now and think about all the money (and arguments) we could have saved not buying those little pills that made me one psychotic woman! Thank God my husband is a patient man and we made it through that first year of hell (literally, no exaggeration). When my husband was prayed over 7 years ago and was told he would be a “father to the fatherless”, it never dawned on us all that phrase would mean & hold true for us in the coming years.
Shortly after we found out about the infertility news, we jumped into “ok, we can fix this” mode and entertained adoption, but we were neither emotionally nor spiritually ready for such a decision. I remember we attended several adoption agency information meetings, we even placed an application with one of them and shortly after didn’t feel peace (thank God they hadn’t even cashed the check yet and were super gracious to let us abandon the process). We even attended a foster care information session and left the class with this gut feeling that this was definitely not the route God had for us. We phoned so many different agencies and hit so many dead ends, we just figured adoption maybe wasn’t the route God had for us to expand our family. So we left the idea alone for many years. Just recently, God orchestrated several events that brought us back to those words spoken seven years ago. When God says something, you can rest assured He will bring it to pass. But our timing was definitely off. God’s clock doesn’t work like ours – His days can literally be years and His years can literally be days. “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the LORD a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day”. 2 Peter 3:8
In July, my husband took a flight to North Carolina to pick up Jianelle from summer youth camp and he noticed as he was waiting at the terminal that there was a young adult who had a t-shirt on that mentioned Jesus. He thought, “Oh, that’s cool.” After boarding the plane, he noticed there was an elderly man sitting across the aisle reading a devotional and the person sitting directly next to him was also doing a devotional or some sort of Bible study. He thought, “This is interesting.” A little while later he hears the person sitting in front of him speaking encouraging words to a woman next to him and he thought, “He sounds like a Pastor.” My husband (who has traveled a lot) had never witnessed so many people speaking, reading and studying about God, so laughingly he thought to himself “maybe we’re all going to meet Jesus today!” (Kind of morbid, I know, but it reminded him of a scene out of the movie “Left Behind” – if you’ve seen it, you get it). Towards the latter part of the flight, my husband also noticed the middle-aged woman sitting next to him was reading a devotional & they struck up a conversation about ministry. She mentioned how she had just gone to a conference with her Pastor (yes, the one he originally thought in his mind was a Pastor) and shared her life story (like most of us women end up doing even when we’re not invited to do so). She ended up telling him about her struggle with infertility and how God had led them to adopt domestically – umm, too much information? Never! (When you’re a woman who’s dealt with infertility, you’ll tell anyone who’ll borrow you their listening ear). She went on to give him a lot of detail on the process and gave him her business card. When he got home, he excitedly handed me the card and said “Babe, I think God is really trying to say something to me about adoption! It’s been on every radio program I’ve heard recently and then this experience happened on the plane. I think we should pursue it again.”
That’s all he had to tell me and the planner, type-A personality came out full force. For several months I was witnessing posts of women starting their adoption journey on social media and one specific couple had posted their news on adopting through Christian Adoption Counselors. The post had me at “Christian” and I did my investigation without sharing anything with my husband. I felt like Mary in a way, when it says in the word “But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.” (Luke 2:19) I prayed over it, I gave it to the Lord knowing my desires were safe within His hands. If He spoke it, He would accomplish it, and so it was. Our time had come, the time for those words spoken 7 years ago to come to pass “Ken, you will be a father to the fatherless.”
We are excited, nervous, some days we really don’t know how to feel. We’ve been drowned in paperwork since we started the process so I don’t think it’s hit us quite yet. It has been amazing to witness the love and support our friends, family, and church community have responded to our initial adoption news. We have seen God’s faithfulness even in the small steps we’ve already taken. We have received an outpouring of love, support, resources (books and devotionals), and even financial offerings to help support our adoption fund-raising efforts, which was so unexpected. There’s nothing like knowing you’re in the middle of God’s will for your life – it brings peace. I will keep everyone updated on our journey. For right now, we covet your prayers! Please pray for our social workers, for our home study process, for our birth Mother, and for the child God has prepared for us from long ago. We are full of joy and expectation, knowing our God goes before us. “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8
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